A few years ago Emily at Chatting at the Sky and her sister, The Nester, posted a series of posts on creating opportunities to get together in community and form friendships. They called it building a bench. I heard about that series of posts at this year’s (in)RL life conference in April. In a video, a bunch of different women from all over the place talked about how much the bench concept had changed their lives.
So today finally – after months of thinking about bench building, mind you – I actually read the posts. They’re good. Like, really good.
Let’s read them together…
Nesting Place – On Friendships Part 2: Build an Automatic Bench (Part 1 is good, too! I shared that on our FB page yesterday.)
Two years ago, before the hubster and I were married, we hosted a monthly dinner and a movie night at my apartment. We watched a different Harry Potter movie each month counting down to the last Harry Potter movie, which we planned to see together in theaters. Each month we’d pick a different food theme: Potter and potatoes, Potter and paninis, Potter and pasta, Potter and pizza, etc. We asked people to RSVP and bring one ingredient toward the meal. Then we cooked a bunch of food together and watched a movie.
It was awesome. Some of our best friendships were formed.
We’ve been dying to host a monthly dinner and a movie series ever since, but somehow all of the busy lives in our group of friends have gotten in the way. There have been multiple weddings and vacations and new jobs and new apartments and the last two summers passed by without a single dinner and a movie series.
I’ve discovered that for me, building a bench – a regular date and time to get together with others – is essential to community. As we’re talking about God’s best in our communities this week, one of the things I want the most is to build another bench for my people to gather on. And maybe some new people, too.
It’ll probably be another dinner and a movie series, because there are few things that people like more than food and movies and sitting on the couch (easy interaction = yay!). But the hubster and I also have fantasies of forming a monthly cooking club and other fun activities.
What about you guys? What’s your favorite way to get together with others? What would you do if you were involved in a monthly get together of some kind?
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What Does More of God’s Best and Less of the Mess Mean?
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Where Does the Best Come From?
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Guest Post: More of God’s Best in My Life (Krystle)
A Dose of Hope and Preview of What’s to Come
God’s Best in Your Life
God’s Best in Our Families
God’s Best in Our Community
Original photo of Bench Along Limberlost Trail Shenandoah National Park Virginia by Dave Herman (dherman1145) from flickrcreativecommons. Adapted for this post by Stephanie Oh.